Shiloh Lundahl, is a bilingual therapist (Spanish) who specializes in working with children, teenagers, and families. Shiloh has been teaching parenting classes for nearly 20 years and he provides in-home therapy and in office therapy to individuals and families. (Click to See Full Profile).
Discipline is defined as training people to obey rules or a code of behavior. Parents often wonder what is the best way to discipline their child or teenager. Discipline has two main goals. First, two change behaviors and second to maintain the relationship. Three strategies to change behaviors quickly Improve Adult-Child Interactions: Adults must go out of their way to have positive experiences and interactions with children and teenagers. Give positive attention to the things our children do appropriately.
Principles of Prompting and Fading Children with ADHD, Autism and Developmental Delays can be forgetful, impulsive and prone to distractions with daily tasks. Parents often get frustrated when their child or adolescent does not complete their tasks and responsibilities completely. Using effective prompts can help parents reduce their stress and maintain the relationship. Effective prompting and fading can help children and adolescents become more independent, respectful, and responsible. Reasons for Using Prompts Prompts can be used to increase skills
Parents often ask me, “How do you teach your kids how to be responsible?” Responsibility is defined as the state of fact of being responsible, answerable, or accountable for something within one’s power, control, or management. So how do we teach our kids to be responsible? The Perfect Life As parents we want our children to succeed and do well socially and academically. We want our children to never have to struggle too much, be uncomfortable, or be disappointed. We
Lately, I’ve been pondering a lot about how important it is to develop gratitude in families, and especially how important it is for our children to develop an attitude of gratitude. Gratitude helps kids be optimistic and combats entitlement. What is entitlement and why is it so rampant? Entitlement in this sense is a feeling that I deserve certain things simply because I believe I should have them regardless of the work that I have put forth to acquire them.
“I just want my kids to be happy” Seeking for your child to feel secure over being happy will help them more in the long run. I often hear parents say that they just want their kids to be happy. Who can blame them? I think that’s what every parent really wants for his or her kids. However, if we as parents aim for our kids’ immediate happiness, we will often miss the mark on their overall happiness. Have you
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often thought of as a disorder of inattention and overactivity. It is also thought of as a disorder that creates difficulties in concentration and organization. New research and reports based on long-term studies of ADHD are showing that emotional instability should be treated as a core symptom of ADHD. Emotional Dysregulation: Emotional dysregulation is the inability to properly modulate and regulate emotions. Possible manifestations of emotional dysregulation include angry outbursts such as destroying or
Behavior and Mental Health Consultant and Life Coach in Gilbert, Mesa and Queen Creek, Arizona Kyle Bringhurst is a behavior and mental consultant and life coach who specializes in working with children, adolescents, adults, and their families. He is the founder of a company called Arizona Behavioral Consulting which specializes in providing services to those with Neurodevelopmental Disorders and Developmental Delays. Kyle received his Bachelor of Social Work Degree and Master of Social Work Degree from the University of Utah.
One of the topics that often surface in the parenting classes that I teach is the parent’s fears of their kids failing in school. This is especially true for parents of kids with ADD or ADHD, because of their child’s difficulty staying focused on a school task to completion. Parents want their kids to succeed. So when their child starts to struggle with something such as schoolwork, the parent steps in to support their child by helping them with their
When does “helping” a child become “enabling” a child? It is hard to know where that line is sometimes. As parents, we love our kids and are willing to make sacrifices for them, but can our sacrifices ever send the wrong message to our kids? The answer is yes! We can certainly send unhealthy and unrealistic messages to our kids leading them to believe that the world will do everything it can to make sure they are comfortable, and especially,