Posts Tagged: “parents”

Why include the parents when working with kids in therapy

As a child and family therapist in Gilbert and Mesa, Arizona, I often receive calls from parents who are seeking professional help because of a concern they have with one of their children.  The first step I take is to set up an appointment with the parents to gather more information about what is going on in the family and to come up with a plan that can help that child. As I get to know the parents and how

The Effects of Sarcasm on Children

During a parenting class, one mother stated, “My kids are so sarcastic.  They are constantly being rude to each other and being sarcastic with me.” Then she asked, “Do you think they got that from me?” The simple answer to that question is probably so.  Children generally learn how to interact with people by watching their parents (and other adults) interact with them and with others.  When parents use sarcasm to release frustration or to point out what they think

Step-parenting Using Love and Logic®

Do you ever feel torn between wanting your step-children to like you and knowing that you still need to have rules and discipline?  Have you found that letting the biological parent handle all the discipline doesn’t work really well all the time. Help for Blended Families in Arizona Blended families are becoming more and more common in today’s world.  Consequently, more kids are being raised partially by step-parents. If you don’t have a good idea of the role of a

Goofy is Great: What Dads Can Do to Create a Better Bond with Their Children

As a father who works outside the home, I recognize that it is easy for me to get caught up in stress at work.  Indeed, sometimes it is difficult to turn off my work focus and turn on my family focus so that I can come home and be the loving husband my wife needs and the playful father my kids want. Father’s have such an important and irreplaceable role in the family.  Good fathers provide stability and strength to

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Great Parents Say I’m Sorry

Do you ever feel like you mess up as a parent? I know I do. Even though I have read plenty of parenting books and, in fact, teach parenting classes, sometimes I still mess up as a parent. Even so, is it nice to know that I don’t have to be a perfect parent to raise great kids; I just need to keep a couple of things in mind: 1. It is better to use parenting techniques poorly and show

Can consistency in parenting be bad?

I once worked with a mother and her three-year-old son (who was more like the size of a six-year-old).  She told me that she was trying really hard to be consistent with the way she disciplined him but the consistancy wasn’t having a positive effect on her child’s behavior.  I asked her to share with me the disciplining techniques that she was using.   She responded that she consistently put him in the corner when he would misbehave and she consistently

Winning the Toothbrush Battle

Have you ever had to hold down your child, pry open his mouth, and insert a tooth brush just to make sure your child’s teeth get clean?  I have.  And I have also seen how ineffective it is, especially when the child just bits down on the brush and stops any cleaning action. Would you like a few ideas that may ease the battle over teeth brushing?  Here are three Love and Logic ideas worth giving a try. 1 –